微信话题：加拿大一周见闻（3）之学习

Bright Future 2016-01-11

尊

重

学会

尊重每一个生命

What can we learn from this trip?

On the first day of our arrival in Canada, the principal of Bodwell School sent each student a task of learning and making new friends. I’m quite sure that everyone has made some new friends at least with their homestay parents and their kids. But what did they learn? I don’t know what exactly they have learned. However, I think there’s one thing that they should learn from this journey and so do their parents who didn’t participate in it. It is the wisdom of showing respects to every life.

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What is respect?

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Let’s see how the dictionary explains: a feeling of friendship and esteem, and courteous regard for people’s feeling. As I understand it, it is about esteem and people’s feeling; it is about the way of getting along with others and a manner of politeness.

When people greet you, you say ‘hi’ to response; when they talk, you listen carefully; when someone is in his dismay, you express your sympathy rather than teasing him. Superficially, it is about polite. But on a deep level, it is because you consider about their feelings and esteems which is one of the most important parts of showing respects.

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Do we show respects probably?

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To this question, however, I don’t want to be too much critical. But one just can’t ignore that our people and our students seldom show those respects to others. For example, you will hardly expect to see anyone yielding or shouting or giving orders unmannerly in your places and leaving without any apologies or gratitude. But this happens a lot among the visitors when they are shopping abroad. I’d like to say they practice ‘customer is God’ too much while without Godly manners.

This is the experience from one of friends in France. Shop keepers or salesmen probably don’t like visitors from China, but still welcome them because they ARE rich. However, wealth doesn’t mean you can disregard others’ feelings.

For our students, I have a lot to say. The biggest problem is they never listen patiently. I can stand in their shoes that it is difficult for them to understand English. In turn, if they could think about their manners and the addressers’ embarrassment when they find no one listens to them, they should behavior themselves better. Anyway, they just did what they like. Unawareness doesn’t mean you can disregard others’ feelings either.

Whoever you are, you should always keep respects in your mind.

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Then, how to learn?

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Well, can I blame the students? No, I don’t think so. They are lovely kids, warm-hearted, intelligent and diligent. They just need to be taught and impacted.

I must confess that since our adults know little about respects, we cannot expect too much positive influences on kids from their behaviors.

But this is a country full of good values. When I say show respects to every life in the very beginning, I mean it. Here, in Vancouver, people do show respect to every life - a beautiful tree, a flying bird, a wild animal and so on. Of course, they show respects to everyone they meet with. As a reflection of such a deep respect in their minds, they are friendly to others, always considerate and inclusive, and doing their best to protect other lives. That also makes this place tranquil and harmonious.

Within 7 days, I could see the changes on those students. Less silence, more responses. Less whispers, more concentration. Less improper behaviors, more good manners. These are impressive improvements which we shall never achieve without the impacts of the social environment and efforts of local teachers. Also the principal shall be satisfied with such improvements that the students have made.

Last but not least, I have to remind every parent who didn’t actually participate in this program that respect is mutual. When your children come back home, please also show your respects to them and keep it in mind that what you do will have an influence on your children as well.

So how about let’s begin with ‘asking what he/she is willing to do’ instead of ‘telling them what they should do’?

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